"Are you obsessive about "being happy""?It's a bit scary to think that you can even be obsessive with "being happy". I love to visit some site that talks about being happy and then asked myself whether they have overly emphasized/simplified "happiness".
Just look at this site, to use as an example, consider the factor of "Be thankful". It said ,"this is worth repeating again and again". I would say though this is correct, it varies from person to person, and how this relates to people. It definitely does not work to be thankful for the sake of being thankful. My experience is that there would only be "that many" people (people I am thankful to are special, so it cannot be too many of them) I am thankful to, because they made significant impact on my progress. I thanked them and I recognised their great personalities. The only reason why this would make me happy, is because they made me see the good and positive side of people. That made me feel hopeful. This sort of "happiness" derived is long lasting, and don't need you to have "too many of them" to be happy. The site also "helpfully" gives you a guide to help you create a gratitude practice, which I am not sure if it would be necessary. This appears to "trying too hard".
I, however, agree what the site talks about "Enjoy the simple pleasure". In a way, it relates a bit to what I had written before, which I would regard it as a form of a minimalist's lifestyle. I like it when it says, "think babies laughing instead of Porsches". Yes, babies laughing are so heart-felt and heart-warming. When was the last time you laughed that way, can you still remember?
What is "simple" to you, however is "not simple" to me because we have different standard. For example, I often love to "laugh out loud" on REALLY SILLY jokes, especially when I was watching "desperate housewives", which I would tempoarily forget about the sometimes, overly exaggerated story pots to have a really good laugh. Some of course think these are "low class" or "distasteful", but what feel so nice when you can still augh out really LOUD. You look inside you, and asked yourselves, what make your heart-strings vibrate the hardest and capable of making you laugh like a laughing babies. Is there any? If there is none, perhaps you are being too serious? But, the simplest of pleasure comes from there, and at that moment, you had just enjoyed some "happiness", so go find that! :D
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You just gave me some inspiration! I like reading your posts. :D
thank you Zi-man, glad that you like what you read, and hope they are not too hard to understand, what the inspiration about? is that about "be thankful"?!! :D
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